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"Suppose someone receives $1500 if a fair coin comes up heads and loses $500 if it lands tails. EV is $500/toss. What is the variance per toss"
$1,000,000.
"and how do you calculate it? If it is not too much trouble please walk me through it."
The formula for the variance of a discrete random variable is E[X^2] - E[X]^2. In words, it is the expected squared value, minus the square of the expected value. In this example, each result happens with 50% probability, so the average, or expected, squared value is simply: [(1500)^2 + (-500)^2]/2 = 1,250,000.
The expected value, E[X], as you stated, is just (1500-500)/2 = 500. So, E[X]^2 = 500^2 = 250,000.
So variance = 1,250,000 - 250,000 = 1,000,000.
You didn't ask, but, since s.d. is the square root of variance, the s.d. per toss would be 1,000.
"My other question pertains to average win and loss in blackjack. Is there a method to estimate average win/loss for a counter given his hourly EV, SD, and Variance? Thanks for any answers."
Yes. VERY complicated formula. You can find a detailed discussion of the entire phenomenon (only one I've ever seen of it), with examples, on pp. 298-301 of BJA3.
Hope this helps.
Don