First: Bringing a spouse into the BJ picture is a recipe for DISASTER.
Second: In count-based strategy variations, a TC of +3 only gives you an edge of 1.0%. This means you effectively have a 50.55% chance of winning and 49.45% chance of losing. At a count of +8, your edge is 3.5% and your effective chances of winning and losing are 51.75% and 48.25%, respectively. Odds in your favor? Yes! Enough in your favor to keep betting the MAX-bet even if you�re losing hand after hand after hand? No!
You need a good spread -- not because your chances of winning the big bets are so good, but because a high bet at an infrequently occurring small advantage is needed to outweigh the base bet at a frequently occurring greater disadvantage. But spreading magnifies the variance. And spreading while losing on positive counts is also a recipe for DESASTER.
Puiu
PS: And don�t forget:
"When preparation and knowledge meets opportunity in a combination of events and circumstances, then sometimes the obvious can be a little hard to see. It's like rock climbing You drive a steel peg into the rock and move up a notch. You may go for a long while before you fall, but when you do, you only drop one notch. In the long run, you make it to the top. It may take you less time than others, or more time than others, but you do make it. ----- Puiu 7/19/02"

